The tie between mothers and daughters is the strongest of all parent-child bonds. A daughter’s need for her mother’s love is a primal driving force that doesn’t diminish with unavailability. Lack of trust and confidence, trouble setting limits, and being excessively sensitive are examples of wounds. Unintentionally, daughters of unloving, absent, or unsupportive mothers could replicate the maternal link in other relationships.
Over the course of my life, I battled with some of those wounds. Despite her presence throughout my life, my mother and I never established a close mother-daughter bond. I harbored grudges for a very long time. I felt hurt, resentful, empty, and angry. Why was that?
My mother was present in my life, I was unconfined, and I was privileged because I was the only girl. However, I was yearning for something I was lacking. I wanted a mother-daughter relationship. I desired girls' nights out, outings to the mall, spa days, and lengthy best-friend discussions. After having daughters of my own, I vowed to never follow in my mother's footsteps.
On my spiritual path to self-discovery, my perspective shifted to include my mother.
What was her point of view? How did she find it as a young mother? What was she feeling? These inquiries forced me to adjust my point of view. In addition to defending my rights as a daughter, I was also battling to end the cycle as a mother.
I doubled down and worked on myself, signing up for a ton of self-development classes and workshops. I altered my surroundings and read an abundance of books. I hired a business coach. It was through this coaching relationship I was inadvertently guided to begin the process of becoming a certified life coach. This was the turning point in my life when I finally understood my purpose.
I advocate for both the mother who has lost touch with her daughter and the daughter who has lost touch with her mother. For the woman who wants to provide her kids with a different kind type of upbringing. A place where kids' ideas are encouraged, where their dreams are unrestricted, and they can express their emotions. I champion for future generations as well as the women who want to rewrite their past, present, and future narratives.
When women shed the emotional burden of an unhealthy mother-daughter connection and grow into powerful women, I envision a world where they can end harmful generational patterns and achieve all of the goals I promote.